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The Pedicure

9/15/2012

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I don't indulge myself all that often.  I went through the entire summer with embarrassing toes peeping through my sandals, but yesterday I so needed a little pampering.  So while Himself was at work and after visiting my mother at the nursing home and trying to spoon in her lunch (whatever it was) I decided to go for it.  The immediate result was toenails that are a deep rose and look rather fashionable with my black sandals.  It was the feeling surrounding it that took me by surprise.

Like most women of my generation, I have  habit of putting myself last on the "to do" list.  The family comes first.  Himself, and the two boys, my mother, my mother-in-law, the local church, whatever.  They all seem to get my attention long before I do.  So when I actually got around to sitting down in the big chair with the massaging rollers making their way up and down my back and having the sweet Vietnamese teenager gently massage and tend to my feet I was a little surprised to find myself in tears.  You'd think it would be a pleasant experience, wouldn't you?  And you'd be right.  Except I realized that I'd been traveling at warp factor six away from the things that were bothering me.  I tended to them.  I took care of them.  I just didn't think about them.  When I stopped for a moment there was a massive highway pile up of stress.  I'm nervous about finding a new job.  I miss my two sons who are away at fabulous (expensive) schools.  I'm not nuts about watching my mother fade like a picture left on a windowsill too long.  And Flanagan went and died on me without saying "See ya!", the jerk! There's a lot going on and I need some tender attention from myself.  Flanagan always admonished me to "put my own oxygen mask on first" so I could take care of everyone else and I always waved away the suggestion with a "yeah, yeah, I know", but the truth is I need someone to remind me because I forget.  We all need to take care of ourselves first. 

And how are YOU doing on that score?  I have rose-colored toenails.  It's a start.
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Terri
9/16/2012 03:08:45 am

Bien dit. Your experience resonates with me. I am also of the "me last " school. I have been wanting a pedicure for weeks and could not squeeze the time out of my day. I finally carved out an hour yesterday, and yes, felt on the verge of tears at being the tended to rather than tend-er, and at the thoughts that I had pushed away in my busyness now clamoring for attention, or at least recognition. The color I chose was "berry daring," because I am trying to challenge myself in many areas these days and thought my toes could remind me to step boldly in areas in which I have been too timid. I also love your images of the picture left too long on the window sill and the oxygen mask. No wonder I can't breathe........................................

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9/16/2012 08:59:40 am

Thanks for the encouragement. Glad you like the images and that you find something here you can identify with. Keep being berry daring! :)

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Bryce
9/16/2012 04:11:36 pm

What a wonderful post (and blog!), Valerie! You have great talents and I feel fortunate you're part of our User Panel.

Amy
9/18/2012 04:53:23 am

I had a few moments to myself yesterday and polished my nails. It showed me that I really should have a professional do it; I do a crappy job. They already look like they need to be redone.

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